Beauty In The Every Day Can Become Rituals

In the whirlwind of our daily lives, we often find ourselves caught in a cycle of rushing—The moment our eyes flick open, we go into doer mode: Checking emails, getting yourself or kiddies ready to leave the house, with a reasonable amount of nutrition to get you through the morning, then to get to work, to finish tasks, to make dinner, doing bedtime routine with a small person that isn't tired and wants another snack, to get into bed and more than likely doon scroll—only to start again the next day. We wear our busyness like a badge of honor, as if being constantly occupied, with "no time for ourself" validates our worth. Slowing down, even for a moment, can feel indulgent, lazy, or even guilt-inducing.

But who is this frantic pace really serving? What are we trying to prove?

More importantly, who is it harming?

The Myth of Constant Productivity

We’ve been conditioned to equate busyness with meaning, and output with value. So when we stop—even briefly—it can feel like we’re failing, especailly as women. That’s why we scroll while we eat, answer texts while we walk, or plan dinner while brushing our teeth. Proud that we can multi-task.

Every moment is seen as an opportunity to squeeze more in. But in doing so, we squeeze out the subtle, beautiful things that make life rich.

Even the other day, I realised I was eating, responding to message, watching the TV and then even went on to Instagram....all at the same time! I had to tell myself off. "Just stop woman and do one thing", I said out loud. Becaise I could feel I wasn't present, I was just on the go and I could feel my brain going at 100 miles an hour.

The Beauty in the Ordinary

Here’s the truth: the present moment is the only place where life actually happens. And yet we spend most of our lives either chasing what’s next or replaying what’s past. Everyday tasks—like making a cup of tea—can become a gateway back to the now. Watch my reel here, where I take you through making an every day task into a beautiful ritual, that takes minutes but can really regulate your nervous system.

Being mindful is tuning into the ask itself. The sounds, the textures, the sensations, the experience, the gratitude and how you can elevate it, to be more a beautiful experience for you and your soul.

You can make a quick cuppa, whilst doing a million other things and just gulping it back quickly OR you can take a bit longer and create a more intentional practise....Choose your favourite mug, your favourite tea bag, listen to the sound of the boiling water, enjoy the sound of the running water into your mug, embrace the smell of the tea, the senstaion of holding the warm mug and savour the taste. Be grateful that you have the means to fresh water and are safe to sit down for 5 minutes to enjoy that drink without any stress.

This is presence. This is mindfulness. And it only took 10 minutes.

The Power of a 10-Minute Ritual

You don’t need a silent retreat or a perfectly curated meditation practice to slow down. What you need is permission—from yourself. Just 10 minutes spent doing something simple with full attention can shift your entire day. It’s not the activity that matters; it’s the way you meet it.

You could fold laundry with your full focus on the feel of the fabric and the rhythm of your hands. You could wash dishes slowly, watching bubbles gather and burst. You could step outside, feel the sun or breeze on your skin, and take a few deep breaths.

Anything where you are in the moment and making it an enjoyable experience.

The Guilt of Rest—and Letting It Go

We feel guilty for pausing because we’ve been sold a version of success that leaves no room for softness, rest, or awe. But ask yourself: Who benefits when you burn out? When you ignore your inner life? When you live on autopilot?

Often, the guilt we feel for slowing down is inherited—taught to us, not chosen. It can be unlearned. The act of reclaiming time for presence is quietly radical. It's a declaration that your life is not a machine to optimize, but a moment-to-moment experience to inhabit.

Start Small, Start Now

Try this: pick one ordinary task you do every day. Brushing your hair. Watering a plant. Making that cup of tea. And do it as if it matters, make it a beautiful intentional practise. Do it with curiosity. Do it like it’s the first time. Because in some way, it is. Every moment is new, and so are you.

Mindfulness isn’t about doing more. It’s about being more—more awake, more grounded, more alive. Not in the grand gestures, but in the quiet, everyday ones. That’s where the beauty lives. And it’s waiting for you, right now.

Real Life...

Can I also just take a moment to say, that my life isn't like that every waking moment! Yes, I make the intention to make parts of my day enjoyable and beautiful, with simple practises, as often as I can. BUT somedays (most days) I am folding laundry, thinking what a pain in the arse it is, or I am hurrying an 8 year old out the door, because we are late AGAIN as he doesn't know the word "hurry" and my herbal tea has sat undrank and turned into a stewed ice tea or I get into bed and doom scroll, with my internal voice shouting "WHY are you watching this reel of that child falling off a swing? WHY am I not meditating or journaling or sleeping!!" Because sometimes I simply don't want to do the things I know that are best for me.

We are all human, and sometimes life, just does take over, we have other priorities and we sometimes self sabotage and know we shouldn't be doing the things we are, but they are just enjoyable and we justify them as that. We can only ever try and be our best, and embrace the season and rhythm of life.

Remember tomorrow is a new day, and if you crave stillness and a mindful moment; make it priority, a non-negotiable. 10 minutes of calm; your nervous system, your body, your mind and your soul will feel somewhat freer, almost quite with the new calmer you. Meaning you are ready to take on anything the day throws at you, with a more relaxed approach.

Selfcare isn't selfish. It is essential to living a fulfilled life. I would argue that of you are craving stillness, do it now before it is too and your body forces you to stop.

So what can you do tomorrow to inject a little more stillness into your day?